We spend so much time trying to avoid our fears to the point that it blocks us from experiencing the best that life has to offer. Think of how much easier life would be if we did not try to control every situation.
This year, I have begun ridding myself from all my unnecessary fears in order to live life to the fullest. It has taken some time, but every time I notice myself getting afraid of something, I have forced myself to confront it. I don’t like to listen to whatever nonsense my mind is telling me, because the goal is to eventually not fear, fear itself.
I want to share with you how I’ve started to confront my fears with certain tactics, in hopes that it helps you the same way it’s benefited me:
It begins with observation. Most of us all start feeling some sort of anxiety once we are face-to-face with our fears. Every time you feel like you are overthinking you have to stop and observe what is making you anxious.
Recently, I started to get extremely anxious once my professor announced that we had to introduce ourselves to the class. Observing this really helped me, because a second before the word “ice breaker” was mentioned I was completely fine. Then all of a sudden my thoughts took a toll on my body, anxiety started setting in and started stimulating all these symptoms. My heart started beating a little faster, my palms got sweaty, and I began overthinking what I was going to say. I really started contemplating whether they would notice me leaving the class to go hide in the bathroom.
After you observe, you can now reflect. Ask yourself why a certain situation caused you so much anxiety and fear? For the most part, people fear whatever makes them uncomfortable. We like to feel safe and stable.
So once the professor mentioned the icebreaker, I realized I was nervous and immediately thought “What if I blush?” I anticipated the fact that I was going to blush BEFORE I even started talking.
Some of you are probably laughing of how silly it is, and I agree. That is the point. How can such a ridiculous thing cause so much anxiety and discomfort? All of our fears seem so serious to us, but in reality, they are so silly.
Notice how all your fears tend to fall under a specific category. Get to the root of the problem.
Public speaking makes me nervous and I tend to blush when all eyes are on me. Strangely enough, I consider myself to be an outgoing person. So why am I so afraid of speaking in public? Once I observed myself in this situation and reflected on it, I was able to notice that I feel extreme pressure when I am the center of attention. Now, I realized that the root of the problem is the fear of public speaking.
You are emotionally trapping, isolating and restricting yourself from life when you do not attempt to do things out of fear.
My thoughts gave me anxiety, and made it seem like it was going to be a lot worse than it really was. I am glad I stuck through and did not sneak out of the room like I was planning. Facing my fear allowed me to realize that although I felt uncomfortable while I was speaking, it lasted so little. If I continue to do this and force myself to face my fears, eventually I will not be afraid to speak in front of people.
FACE YOUR FEARS. Do not let anything keep you from living your life to the fullest. Get out your comfort zone!! So what if you blushed? So what if someone rejected you? So what if someone is judging you? Face every situation and live it!
Our fears are so irrelevant in comparison to the grandiosity of the universe. So are you going to let life pass you by because you are too afraid to experience every aspect of it? Or are you going to enjoy every experience you have?
The choice is always yours. Choose to live and you will see how precious life really is.
“The truth is, everything will be okay as soon as you are okay with everything. And that’s the only time everything will be okay.” –Micheal Singer in “The Untethered Soul”